Our beliefs come from various sources in our lives. They come from the normal and acceptable beliefs of our parents, other family members and other adults from the same culture that take part in our upbringing.
They also come from our very personal experience of life. As we grow up we have our own experiences that will reinforce some beliefs and challenge others. We may take some standpoints that are the opposite of our parents, not just to be different but because our life experience gives us a different viewpoint.
Whatever our beliefs are, we seek to reinforce them by finding evidence that they are true. And equally we find evidence to back up what we believe is untrue.
However this is our perspective. And everyone has their own very personal perspective. It doesn’t change what is, but it does change how we “see” and experience a situation. And how we react to it. These beliefs can be very useful to us. They give us a structure, a measuring stick to see how we believe everything else in our lives to be. They make life so much easier. And from these beliefs we adopt habits and take actions that shape our lives.
When we get stuck
But these beliefs can also get us stuck when they are no longer of positive use to us – like a record going round. A wall. Our IBS.
If you believe deep down that you need a doctor to solve your IBS, and decide to never to challenge this belief, then you will need a doctor to solve your IBS. If you don’t find a doctor that can help you because they are stuck in their specialty and don’t see the whole of you, you reduce your capacity of recovering.
If you believe that the current health system will give you the solution to your IBS, then you will patiently wait for it to do so while your life goes by.
And you may also believe deep down that you can’t recover from IBS. Because IBS drains us, and we lose hope. After all, there is a lot of “proof” out there from specialists (who haven’t had IBS themselves) telling you that “there is no cure for IBS”. This is their experience, their truth, their belief based on their own capacity to cure IBS – albeit a very damning one for their patients.
I am telling you the opposite, because I have recovered from IBS. It is my belief and my concrete experience. I decided I was not going down with this ship, and fought hard to come back up. It wasn’t an easy path. 25 years of IBS had left its mark.
None of the tools I needed were provided by the health system. But I chose to believe I would recover. I learned piece by piece just what was going on inside me, why I had IBS, and searched high and low for solutions. No pills, no magic wands. Simply learning to understand how our bodies, minds, emotions and energies work together and why they react in the way they do. And learning to undo what was causing me problems. To do that I also had to accept that I couldn’t “see” myself and my own subconscious patterns, and enlisted help with that.
As Henry Ford said: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re probably right.”
Having beliefs that serve us helps us navigate with ease through life. However if these beliefs are not getting you the life you want, it could be time to start questioning them. And time to surround yourself with people who genuinely believe that your IBS can change for the better.