When you are feeling really stuck with regular, even daily IBS flare-ups, life can feel a really hard and lonely place. It can feel so hard to move forward. By its very nature, we feel a little ashamed of our IBS. We try to hide it, pretend we don’t have it. And we walk around shackled to it everywhere we go.
When you are doing what everyone tells you to and not really getting results, it can be so hard to see how you can break out of this prison and move forward. I got stuck there for a long time.
So how the hell can you move forward?
By challenging everything you have ever been told to do and that is not working for you. And actively experimenting.
That may sound a little crazy, but just think about it. If you keep doing the same things over and over, chances are you are going to get the same results.
I challenge you to try out relatively simple experiment: Every week, do something differently. Have lunch somewhere different one day. Or eat with different people. Or alone. And make a note of how you feel just afterwards.
Same? Better? Worse?
out small but new situations, until you find ones where you feel a litter
better. Maybe you notice you feel more at ease, in a better mood, or bloat a
I don’t see how this is going to help me move forward…
Well you would be surprised just how much our mind loves familiar situations. Ones that we experience regularly and feel comfortable and completely safe with.
This is great in some ways, but these same familiar habits are also the ones that keep us stuck. If you start building your “doing things a little differently” muscle, that is what will become familiar. This will help you to open up, and try out new solutions that can help you move forward.
With the lighter evenings, why not go out for a walk and notice what’s growing?
Or watch something completely different on TV? If you like soaps, try a comedy instead. And make a note of how you feel just afterwards.
At the weekend, try doing something you liked doing before you had IBS. Something relaxing that you don’t normally take the time for. And make a note of how you feel just afterwards.
Same? Better? Worse?
How this helps the mind
Changing routine can even help open your mind to new perspectives. Our minds like to think thoughts and look for evidence to support it (Let’s face it, we all love to be right!)
So why not play with this thought “I can actually recover from IBS“, and experiment with that. See what evidence out there supports that inspiring belief.
It gradually allows you to learn to trust yourself (and others) more, and even try out new techniques that your doctor cannot bring you.
You could, for example, find the courage try something that you find really off the charts, like Reiki. Just to see what it’s all about and form your own opinion.