Sometimes you can try REALLY HARD to make changes, and still feel like you’re failing with your IBS. You summon up your courage, take two steps forward – and slide three steps back. If this happens to you, take heart. You may be closer than you think!
Two steps forward, three steps back
There is an interesting phenomena that I have observed that crops up EVERY TIME you think you are finally getting somewhere.
You make some sort of change, and are starting to take a few baby steps forward with your IBS.
You even start to feel HOPEFUL… And then, suddenly, everything slides.
It feels like you are failing with your IBS – or doing something wrong.
At that point your brain registers the message that “you’ll never manage it” or “it’s impossible to change”. And you feel that painful twinge of despair.
And if this has been a nagging doubt that you’ve had all along, it can stop you in your tracks. You stop, give up and wonder “What was I thinking?”.
I did this SO many times (and had so many IBS symptoms). UNTIL I learned what to do instead:
Learn to recognise this challenging pattern
If you want a different result, yes you have to try something new. But if the pattern of two steps forward, three steps back is familiar to you, this is what you need to realise: It’s a pattern.
Imagine you have decided to release your IBS, you’re making headway – and then you get a flare-up. That flare-up is like an old painful yet familiar friend, tapping you on the back, saying “Are you sure?” in a condescending, challenging voice!
Wait for it.
Powefully reply “Yes, I’m damned well sure! I’ve DECIDED!” And keep going!
Failing with your IBS? What can unfold if you stay your course
What often happens – if you can stand walking through the despair and the haunting refrain of “It will NEVER get better” – is that those 3 steps back can operate like an archer’s bow.
Like an arrow being drawn backwards BEFORE suddenly the arrow releases and is thrown forward – and you actually start experiencing a leap forward of positive change.
Keep going. Keep trying. Don’t stay stuck.
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