Do you spend a great deal of time and energy working out how to fight IBS, and basically just firefighting? Maybe it’s time to change your IBS strategy.
What if there was a smarter way forward?
What if your body was not your enemy, but was actually asking for your help? For your support?
Asking you to listen to what is wrong, not just fight IBS by looking for outside solutions?
Asking you to stop putting yourself last on your to-do list because you have “more important things” to do?
For me, this took a major mind shift. I had been used to using my brain – and dragging my body around like a handbag. And I didn’t even realize it.
Changing strategy from “fight IBS” to “listen to IBS” is what helped me put IBS behind me.
How to not fight IBS
Firstly listening to your body is a choice.
You can go on ignoring your body and taking pills, but your symptoms won’t go away. And realizing this is necessary the first step.
This means allowing yourself to change strategy: to come out of autopilot and listen. In theory this sounds easy, but it can be really hard to put into practice.
Because we live in a world of distraction where we rarely rest.
Plus we are SO used to doing things to get results that we forget that taking some time out or doing something just for the fun of it is necessary to balance our lives. And to be able to listen.
The first time used this approach it was a real struggle.
I felt guilty for taking this time “doing nothing”.
It was unproductive and seemed to go against the grain. And it seemed like yet another thing to put on my “to do” list!
But think about it.
Watching TV is unproductive too, but it is socially accepted. After a hard day, we think nothing of dropping onto the couch and watching TV.
Yet while we are doing this (and it’s often for more than 10 minutes), our minds are caught up with what we’re watching (and often texting or catching up with social media at the same time…). And it doesn’t give us space to switch off and tune into ourselves.
We can still watch TV, but we need to take some real time out too.
Change your IBS strategy and take some quality time for yourself
But I don’t have time! And I’m tired…
I SOOO get that. But you want things to improve, right?
You can achieve a lot in a really short space of time. AND it can be really relaxing – even energising.
You can start by consciously taking 10 minutes a day for yourself. This is actually really difficult if you are not used to it. There is always something else we feel we should be doing, something else to think about.
The best way to set this in motion is to decide that this will happen after a specific time every day. It can be when you get up (though I have never managed this one myself), after lunch, before you sit down and watch tv. You choose.
But it needs to become a habit.
If it helps, write that 10-minute slot in your diary as if it were a meeting or an obligation.
10 ideas for being present here and now
When you’re feeling tired, maybe you’ll use this 10 minutes to take a bath. Try to let your mind rest from its constant chit-chat. Just look at the bubbles, the different sizes of bubbles, and the colors reflected in them. And then take some time consciously looking after your skin.
Maybe you’ll use this time to sit still and listen to some happy or soothing music – with your phone and TV off. Try to turn off your mind and just let the music take you on journey. And if you fall asleep, don’t worry.
If you need to do something a little more active
Maybe play an instrument. Again, let yourself just play something you know. Who cares if you miss a few notes. Just enjoy the flow of it.
Or take the dog for a walk actually being present with your dog and not thinking about what you have to do next, or tomorrow…
Maybe you’ll go outside and look around, see what’s new, what’s changing…
If your mind is really whirring
If your mind is really whirring, doing a guided meditation can be really helpful. Just for 10 minutes. There are loads of apps and Youtube videos to start you off. Don’t worry if your mind continues whirring a little, you will find you sleep better even if you disconnect just for a few seconds of the 10-minute program.
It doesn’t really matter what you do, as long as you find it enjoyable and allow yourself some time off. Some room to tune into yourself, into simple pleasures where you don’t have to fight IBS or fight with food.
You will gradually start to make some room for listening. And you will start reconnecting with yourself (and what your body is trying to tell you).
From there you will be in a better position to notice what sets your flare-ups in motion.15