Finding love with IBS (what you need to know)

Do you feeling daunted at finding love, knowing you have IBS?

Does this feel such a minefield that you don’t even want to go there?

I totally get it (I’ve been there too!) But don’t let IBS stop you, and keep you in hiding.

Your future “love” will thank you for it.

Finding love with IBS is SO embarrassing!

Yep, it certainly is. And not the easiest of things to talk about.

The bloating is really hard on self-image. And the noises and smells don’t exactly boost self-confidence.

IBS makes us feel less than sexy. For sure!

But there are so many people who don’t have IBS that feel really self-conscious too.

We are not alone with this.

If anything, that struggle makes you a much more open, more understanding person.

And those qualities are really attractive! So don’t shrink back. Be proud of who you are.

I had just split up with someone, and I had decided that everyone was either married, divorced or wierd.

When I met my husband to-be!

I don’t remember exactly when the subject of IBS came up.

We had joked after some spontaneous passing of wind.

And he probably noticed that I drank only water and was very careful what I ate.

HOWEVER there was one fateful moment when IT happened.

Just a few months in to the relationship I had taken prep for my colonoscopy, and I woke up with an uneasy warm feeling… it had gone everywhere!

I just wanted a hole to swallow me up.

As I was already late for work, I covered the bed over as if nothing had happened and planned to get home early and deal with it.

And when I got in, I discovered that the sheets had already been changed!

That’s one of the reasons I said “yes” to getting married. Because here was someone who would support me, no matter what.

And that’s what YOU deserve too.

Finding love when you have IBS does make you feel more vulnerable.

But we forget that other people have their own hangups too!

The person opposite may not have IBS.

BUT they will likely have their own vulnerabilites that they will be trying to hide.

They won’t be zooming in on what’s different about you.

THEY will be painfully aware of what they see as being THEIR OWN shortcomings – their minefield.

And those will feel to them as if they are MUCH WORSE than anything you could have going on, I can assure you.

SO if you do have to dash out, remember to tell them you have IBS.

Or at least say that you might be a while.

Just so they won’t be worried when you don’t come back out immediately.

And be wondering if they said something stupid …

GO FOR IT!